In this story Diana and her husband Jim were unable to have a child of their own.
This story starts where many adoption stories begin, with infertility. For Diana, who works from home as an accountant in suburban Illinois, the concept dawned on her slowly. No one told her she’d never conceive — it just didn’t happen. She and her husband, Jim, had some tests done which supplied no clear answers. Fertility drugs, such as Clomid, didn’t work.
While this is not uncommon, Diana and Jim had to look for alternate means of acquiring a child…
They knew they could try artificial insemination or adoption. Neither seemed right. “We had friends who went through expensive, emotional fertility treatments and still had no luck. Adoption felt almost as risky; it seemed like everyone was going overseas and taking weeks off from work. We couldn’t afford to do that since Jim runs his own shop,” Diana says. “As for a U.S. adoption, everyone said we’d wait forever for a baby.”
The popularity of open adoption was also a concern. Jim and his brother had been adopted as babies and enjoyed a happy childhood. That was during the 1960s when adoptive parents didn’t communicate with a birth mother, and the arrangement suited Jim fine. He was skeptical about having things any other way.
While this couples story is one that has been told hundreds of thousands of time in America, each case is unique in its own way. In the same way no two people are exactly alike, no two families are put together the same either. When it comes to adoption, Jim had lived a happy life adopted with his brother as a baby. So naturally the option of open adoption was one to be heavily considered.