Adoption May Be a Complicated Process, But it’s Worth it in the End0

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In this story Diana and her husband Jim were unable to have a child of their own.

This story starts where many adoption stories begin, with infertility. For Diana, who works from home as an accountant in suburban Illinois, the concept dawned on her slowly. No one told her she’d never conceive — it just didn’t happen. She and her husband, Jim, had some tests done which supplied no clear answers. Fertility drugs, such as Clomid, didn’t work.

While this is not uncommon, Diana and Jim had to look for alternate means of acquiring a child…

They knew they could try artificial insemination or adoption. Neither seemed right. “We had friends who went through expensive, emotional fertility treatments and still had no luck. Adoption felt almost as risky; it seemed like everyone was going overseas and taking weeks off from work. We couldn’t afford to do that since Jim runs his own shop,” Diana says. “As for a U.S. adoption, everyone said we’d wait forever for a baby.”

The popularity of open adoption was also a concern. Jim and his brother had been adopted as babies and enjoyed a happy childhood. That was during the 1960s when adoptive parents didn’t communicate with a birth mother, and the arrangement suited Jim fine. He was skeptical about having things any other way.

While this couples story is one that has been told hundreds of thousands of time in America, each case is unique in its own way. In the same way no two people are exactly alike, no two families are put together the same either. When it comes to adoption, Jim had lived a happy life adopted with his brother as a baby. So naturally the option of open adoption was one to be heavily considered.

Read the rest of Diana and Jim’s story here.

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Using Yoga to Eliminate Stress0

Are you feeling weighed down by stress and anxieties of your every day responsibilities? Are you constantly worrying about potential mishaps and things that could go wrong? If you answered yes to either of these, then combating Stress should be the first of your priorities..

in this article over 10 different poses are examined and thoroughly explained so you can take full advantage of the stress relief that comes when you perform Yoga.

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Cross-Legged Lower Back Stretch

1. Sit a few inches from the wall with your legs crossed.

2. “Walk” your fingers up the wall, stretching from the lower back.

3. Broaden your shoulders by separating and lifting your shoulder blades. Keep your throat and neck soft. Don’t tense your shoulders, just lift them.

4. When you think you have gone as high as you can, rest for a moment while your body adjusts to the pose, then walk your fingers a little higher.

5. Rest and repeat several times.

6. If this is too difficult, try the next pose.

Read the entire list of poses and moves here.

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‘Lessons From Nina’ Describes How A Child’s Curiosity Grows Everyday0

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When Becky and Rich Carter brought six-week-old Nina home from The Cradle in the spring of 2009, they were “surrounded by the newness of it all,” Becky recalls. As first-time parents, they were more focused on attending to the needs of their infant daughter than mulling over the implications of being an adoptive family or what questions might arise from family and friends – or, eventually, from Nina herself.

All adoptive families have the lingering thought in the back of their minds regarding how their child will begin to react when they discover their origins. Its a natural part of a child’s development to explore their past, and as such its entirely natural for an adopted child to want to know about their biological parents. 

Now that Nina is older, and asserting her own personality, Becky and Rich are facing a new set of challenges, as well as rewards.

Becky describes her daughter as an extrovert, a driven and outgoing little girl. While it has been rewarding for her and Rich to watch Nina’s personality emerge – and see how much she is like Becky – it has also presented some challenges for the couple. “As she is going into new stages, and becoming more independent, Nina is directing us on what we need to be focusing on as parents,” Becky said. “This requires so much on an emotional level.”

For instance, Nina is asking more and more tough questions of her mom and dad. “At this stage they start to notice the similarities and differences and verbalize them,” Becky explained. Nina is realizing that she doesn’t look like other members of her family. “I know how it feels to be in a conspicuous family,” said Becky, who is biracial and was adopted by Caucasian parents. “So we have a better understanding of how to help her develop her sense of self as an adopted person.”

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TLC T.V. Series ‘The Little Couple’ Shows The Adoption Process Up Close0

Last night, ‘The Little Couple’ aired an episode where the happy couple finally received their adopted baby from India. While detailing the anxiety experienced by all parties, the episode gives an up close and personal look at the adoption process and the tricky emotions that come along with it. But Dr. Jennifer Arnold and Bill Klein already know the struggles that come with child birth, already with a few of their own the couple decided to adopt internationally after a lengthy consideration of their options.

Adding even more concern into the process, Jen revealed that she was afraid of how slowly Zoey was developing. Zoey has dwarfism, and is very small, but Jen was especially concerned for her health when she saw the girl’s growth charts. At 2 years old, she was only 23 inches tall and 15 pounds, and Jen feared that “she may be undernourished.”

Check out the preview of the emotional episode here:

 

Read the whole article here

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Debi Grebenik Gives Tips on How to Deal With Adoption Related Stress0

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In this article Debi gives us a good look at how stress can have unwanted effects on both parties of the adoption process. The birth mother deals with one kind of stress, while the adoptive parents deal with an entirely new type of stress.

The differences are huge, and when not dealt with properly can result in impulse decisions and negative consequences that could potentially harm the relationship between the parties which in turn, will eventually effect the baby.

It is through the expression, processing and understanding of our own fears that we can calm our stress. Both parents and children experience stress, so it is imperative that we understand the role stress plays in our relationships, particularly the unique stresses for adopted children.

It also goes on to describe the lingering effects of stress after the event of transferring the child. Read the article and see how if any of these types of stress are effecting you in your every day life and see what you can do to help alleviate it!

Read the whole article here

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25 year Old Birth Mother Documents Every Step of Pregnancy Before Adoption0

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In an account we aren’t often used to, a creative and brave young photo-journalism student decided to document her pregnancy in a way few would have the strength to. She isn’t only documenting her pregnancy, she is also preparing to make one of the biggest decisions of her life and adopt her baby to a loving couple one state over.

Every now and then, you hear a story that’s equal parts pain and joy, weakness and strength, fear and bravery, despair and hope.

The birth and adoption of Leo Doud, which came to light last week in a poignantly candid account written by Leo’s birth mom, is one such story.

Read the whole story here

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Adoption Comes in All Shapes, Sizes and Configurations0

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In this story from the national Adoption Center you can see how adoption isn’t ever a cut and dry situation. It comes in all forms and configurations, and sometimes it isn’t a baby the adoptive parents are looking for.

Stefanie and Jon already had two school-aged children. But their family didn’t feel complete. “We just needed a couple more,” says Stefanie. “And we didn’t want infants.”

Read Stefanie and Jon’s Story here.

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What The Books Didn’t Tell Us – The Realities of Being an Adoptive Parent0

Sometimes nothing can prepare you for a situation as emotionally straining as adopting a child. Books can tell you what to expect, but the reality is always something entirely different.

“My wife and I learned a lot from reading, but there were some things not discussed in the books we read. So from one father to another, from one parent to another, here’s my notebook of thoughts after our adoption.”

 

Read the whole story here.

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The Story of Baby Hudson Shows Us The Anxiety Common Among Adoptive Parents0

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In this heartfelt story from the blogging site MaillardvilleManor.com, a couple seeking adoption had finally crossed all the obstacles on their path to a new child. The home-study had finished, the paperwork was filled out and all that was left is to choose where to adopt the baby from.

While there were obvious choices, the couple decided at first to go against adopting locally because of the waiting list. But after further investigation they decided it was the best option. Only a couple weeks after submitting their intent to adopt, they were chosen by a birth-mother, starting a series of events that would change the young couples lives forever. Read more..

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New York Times Article Describes Life For A Child Long After Adoption0

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In this New York Times article, a young woman named Jaime describes what it was like discovering the harsh truth about her parents as an adult. With all the misconceptions surrounding adoption and the adoptee, this article gives a clear insight into the child’s immediate reaction.

Jaime describes the heartbreak she felt when learning the truth about her birth mother, yet how she also managed to find love and understanding for her birth mother making one of the hardest decisions anybody could ever make.

This article gives a deep insight into some of the emotions that can surface when one is exposed to such a situation. Read the whole article here..

Learn more about AZ Adoption Help here

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